Blog of the Year Award

Thanks Vikki from The View Outside

What a neat award. Thank you, Vikki, for thinking of me.

Update as of 1/11/13…I was given another one from Cayman Thorn.

 

Now I have two! Thanks, Cayman

Now I have two! Thanks, Cayman

 

When I think about blog awards, I always find myself reevaluating the purpose of why I’m here. The other day I was talking to a friend, and she told me she was quitting her blog. She was tired of constantly juggling her blog with her 3 children, a full-time job, and house/husband. She said she had no time for herself anymore.

I asked her why she started a blog in the first place. She said she needed that outlet. She lives in a remote town and doesn’t get out much. She thought her blog would be a great way to network and find a community of people with similar interests, common ground.

I tried to show her that the blog was her treat to herself. That without the blog her time would be sucked up by Things. Children. Housework. Life. That there would be no other way she could engage in adult conversation or air her frustrations, tension, joy.

Why is it that we put ourselves last? Not all of us, certainly, but damn enough. When I started my blog it was initially because I was informed that ‘Writers have blogs.’ It was the smart thing to do if you wanted your name out there. I did it out of necessity.

Funny thing is I started enjoying myself. I don’t usually talk about ‘Me’ with people. Even in family gatherings, I’m the one listening to everyone one else talking. So, the fact I am out in blogosphere, chatting, is strange. I feel like Sleeping Beauty waking up in Never Land.

I’m not a numbers person. I mean, I could rattle off my stats (once I actually hunt them down) and give you an overview of the impact of my blog. But I don’t think that info tells me or anyone else how much my blog really means.

The point is, for me, no matter what my stats might be, blogging has helped me grow as a writer as well as a person. Even if my numbers don’t go anywhere fast, I am getting a lot more out of blogging than simply introducing people to my writing. This is my playground, my workspace, my barstool, my comfy couch. This is where I take care of myself.

Thanks for blogging with me.

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Now on to sharing the award. Check out The Blog Of The Year Award Page for rules and info on how it all works. I always have a hard time picking and choosing award recipients because I follow blogs equally and for various reasons. Some I follow for the poetry and prose; some I follow for the savvy advice; some I follow for the camaraderie. So, I did what I usually do and made my choices based on a theme.

The theme for this award is:

4 blogs that make me laugh

Robin Coyle

Susie Lindau

Anne Woodman

Vanessa Chapman

76 thoughts on “Blog of the Year Award

  1. Congratulations, Kate! And you picked four great blogs to nominate. :)

    It’s hard to balance everything in our lives, but finding personal time is so important for our long-term well being. I’m still working on a schedule that really works for me. Maybe I’ll find it in 2013. ;)

    • Thank you, JM. Don’t you love those blogs? I always know the minute I click on them, that I will be laughing at some point.

      I agree that it’s a struggle to find personal time. This time of year especially I try to rein it in and start anew come January. So, I’m right there with you in the search for a better schedule. :)

  2. Congratulations, Kate!! I loved what you said about your blog being your playground, your bar stool and your comfy couch. So veery very true!! :) stats are all fine and good but the real benefit to blogging, for me, is the outlet and the community of fellow writers that I have found through it.

    • Hi Cheryl, absolutely! The weird thing about stats (for me) is that I don’t think they give the full picture. Even if I only had 20 followers, if I make a difference to any of them then I’m achieving a goal.

  3. Very few can carry the title of Coach, COACH. Congrads Coach KJ. Blogging is a lot of work, Coach. Having it as “JUST” an outlet is not enough. If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t have a blog page. Sometimes blogging is more inlet then outlet, because you put a lot into it. Meeting and LEARNING from people like yourself is the reason why I stay in the game. I may not respond to everything you post, but I’m always stopping by(sometimes I don’t post, because I type -.2325 words a minute). I’m sorry your friend wants to quit.

    • Hey BBK! I like the way you put that: “sometimes blogging is more inlet than outlet, because you put a lot into it’. I think that’s a really smart way of looking at it.

      Right, I feel like once we become part of a supportive and positive community we become better writers, we learn more, and we become more confident.

      Don’t worry about not responding to everything I post. I know you’re out there. Lurking. ;)

  4. Congratulations, Kate! This award is well-deserved. I follow more than a few blogs, but, whenever I see you’ve got a new post, I always click right away, to read what new adventure, insight, or simple anecdote you have to share. :D

    I love your outlook on the impact of your blog, too, to both the blogosphere and yourself. After all, if we’re not feeling happiness from our creations, how are we supposed to make other people feel joy from them?

    Congratulations again!

    • Hi Mayumi,

      That’s very sweet, and makes me feel warm fuzzies. Thanks. :)

      I was having a similar conversation with Hubs about doing what we love to do, and how many people there are in the world who hate their jobs, duties, life in general. It’s a sad thing. I feel like with anything we do, whether we are creating something, or earning a living, or raising kids — if we’re not feeling happiness throughout the process, then that will show in the end result.

      With your blog, I can always see that you get great joy out of it. It comes through your posts and in your replies to comments. You really take a lot of time and make a lot of effort to engage with people. And you’re good at it, too. :)

  5. Congratulations! :D You deserve it! I agree – we should be more selfish and spend more time on ourselves. It might seem egoistic to say this but what’s the use to live if we’re not as happy as can be?

    • Hey Fredrik, I don’t think that’s egotistic at all. I completely agree with your view. It’s pointless to wallow through life. That’s not why we’re here. I think we’re given lots of opportunities to make happiness and to lead joyful lives. Some of us are successful, others are still learning, some fail. Life’s too short to fail. :)

  6. Outstanding Kate. I always enjoy your posts. Taking time for ourselves is important to our mental and physical health. I started blogging for the same reason you did, because “writers need to blog”. I found a community of people with like interests that support each other and by each one taking that time for themselves, ultimately help everyone else in the community.
    Thank you for sharing your time.

    • Hi Dennis,

      It turned out to be a nice surprise when blogging wasn’t the chore I thought it would be. :) I feel quite fortunate to have found this corner of blogosphere because there are many amazing people here. You included. :)

      And thank you for reading.

  7. Congratulations, Kate! You certainly have a strong following, and I think it is because your joy in writing comes through. Whether you have 10 followers or 10,000, your blog has reached out to people. Thank you for writing.

    And thank you so much for mentioning my blog! ; )

    • Hi Anne,

      What a lovely thing to say, thanks. I guess that’s why we’re all here, to reach out to people. So, I’m glad my arms are long enough. ;)

      Well, thank you for being one of the bloggers who gets me giggling out loud. Whenever I see that you’ve posted, I know right away I’m going to be laughing. That’s a great gift.

  8. Well done Kate – you deserve it. I think your friend needs to get off the train and sit in the station for a while before she decides whether she wants to get back on the train. I always do that in cases like this. I tell myself that I don’t have to do this thing and I’m going to have a rest and not do it. Most of the time, I realise then that was all I needed a rest.

    • Hi loony, haha I like that bit of advice. I shall have to tell her that one! And you’re right, it’s like thinking any important decision through before making it. Even if she took 3 months off from blogging and then returned to it, she’d probably be happier.

      Rest. Rest? What’s rest? Is that a real thing that adults actually do? ;)
      Where do I get it???

      • You are right about the rest thing and I honestly do not know how you get up every morning at 4am. Quite often, I get up at that time to use the bathroom (I drink both camomile tea and soya milk before I go to sleep) and I think about you up and writing. It would make me feel physically sick so you really are a trouper but do make sure that you take care of yourself.

      • I don’t know how I get up at 4 every morning either. In the beginning, it was because my son wouldn’t sleep, so while I nursed him I wrote. Then, after he started sleeping through the night, it grew into a habit because I loved the feeling of writing uninterrupted. The downside to this is that I’m in bed by 9 most nights. That part makes me feel old.

        I do need to take better care of myself. That will be a New Year’s resolution.

  9. Congratulations to you and thank you so much for the award! I am honored to be on your list!
    Blogging has become such a huge part of my life too. I think It has helped me to communicate better in real life. I have already met several people through the experience and plan to meet up with many more!
    I am so glad I could make you smile!

    • Hi Susie,

      Well, your blog always gets me chuckling, especially the videos and pictures. You have a really friendly, open way about you.

      I think I agree with you, blogging has helped me communicate better in real life too. I’m also not quite as shy or introverted as I used to be. Hmm. Food for thought. :)

  10. Congrats on your well deserved blog award! I can’t imagine not blogging. Before this blog, I had several anonymous ones. No readership. Just me pouring my thoughts out for me. I can’t imagine giving up the blog. Cutting back from time to time if neded, but never losing that outlet.

    • Hi Kourtney,

      Wow, I didn’t know that you had a few anonymous blogs prior to your current blog. I think that’s awesome and a really clever way of ‘journaling’.

      Right, quitting a blog at this stage in the game wouldn’t be helpful at all. Not just professionally, but personally. It helps me in so many ways. Cutting down on how much I blog is the better option, I agree.

      • Yeah, it was easier to pore my heart out anonymously when I was younger. Now, I do it judiciously. ;) Building a platform is important in this publishing market too. Better to blog a few times a month than to trash all that work. I agree. :)

      • It’s an interesting growth process. I like comparing the younger writer-me to the older writer-me to see how much I have learned. Building a platform is a lot more involved and complicated than I originally thought!

  11. Congrats Kate! I am the same way out in public–I often bounce back personal questions so I can listen to others talk. I never thought of my blog as the alternative, but it’s true. :)

    • Hi Coleen,

      It’s more comfortable to let others lead the conversation, and then I pepper it with small comments. I don’t do well under the spotlight for too long. On a blog it’s really easy to get in and out, quick as a bunny, but still make meaningful conversation. :)

    • Hi Carrie,

      This whole process of discovery has really taken me by surprise. Blogging is much more than marketing myself. If all blogging amounted to was a platform, I doubt I would have stayed in it this long. Thanks for stopping by!

  12. Well thank you Kate! I can’t believe I am included in a list with Anne and Vanessa. Heady company for me. I must check out Susie, pronto.

    Love what you said about blogging. The only thing I would add is it is a time vacuum! Log-on and poof! Two hours are gone.

    • Hi Robin,

      And thank you for bringing humor into my life. I need it, especially now when I have all that stuff going on with my mom. I need all the laughs I can get.

      You’re definitely right about blogging being a time vacuum. That’s why it’s important to blog wisely. :)

  13. Congratulations! Having just started a blog last month, your perspective about blogging and what it means to you is really nice to read. I started http://www.conflicttango.com to create a platform, but even this early into it, I find I derive so much pleasure from the readers who comment and engage with me on it. Those comments inspire me with more ideas and i want to keep going…and I’m as busy as everyone else. Wish me luck that I too can keep it going for the long-term; that’s my plan anyhow.
    Again…I’m so happy you won this award–a bright star while you’ve been going through some challenging stuff with your mom.

    • Hi Jagoda,

      I’m so glad you provided a link to your blog. I had tried clicking on your gravatar to find out more about you, and that didn’t work. I will be visiting you soon. :)

      I’m sure you’ll do fine with blogging. It’s a lot of fun, but it is a time sucker. It took me a long time to find the right balance so that it wouldn’t overrun my life.

      Thanks always for stopping by and reading. :)

  14. So true – when we think of blogging as a way to connect with people it’s much more fun than playing that numbers game. I’m grateful for the friends I’ve made here – including you of course! Hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmas!

    • Hi Sheila,

      Much less stressful. Although I have to remind myself that eventually I’m going to have to pay attention to the numbers at some point if I depend on this blog to reach a wider audience. Sigh. Just add it to my list to things to do.

      Thanks so much, Sheila. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas too!

    • You’re welcome, Vanessa. It’s quite true. I know when I’m clicking on your blog that I’m going to be laughing at some point. It’s a great feeling.

    • Hi Alarna, I love that blogging has given me more than simply a place to share my writing. It’s definitely been a worthwhile step in my journey. Thanks for you lovely words.

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  16. I am really glad that you enjoy your blogging. I have people that tell me “oh, it’s so much time.” I just keep thinking how much it has helped me and how many friends I have and how much I have shared through both posts and comments. The time, for me it is a lot, is well worth it.
    Congrats on the award!
    Scott

    • Hi Scott,

      I was one of those people who thought it would be too much time. And, admittedly, there were stretches of weeks where I put in way too much time. But I think I have worked out a better, healthier blogging schedule which still helps me keep up with my regular blogging buddies as well as meet new friends too. I have grown and learned quite a lot from blogging, which is why I appreciate it so much. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  17. I can definitely relate to your statement that blogging has helped you to grow as a person — for me, it’s been a matter of constantly moving through the sense that “what I think doesn’t matter,” and writing despite that feeling. It’s been a huge source of growth for me.

    • That’s a really good point, Chris. I feel like that sense of insecurity (which seems prevalent among creative people) is diminished (if not obliterated) when we power through it.

  18. Congrats Kate!! So well deserved. Funny enough, you were one of our first visitors, and we have learned so much just by stopping by your blog as well as picking up friends from you, who are now, a part of our networking circle. We can’t think of anyone who deserves this more. It’s always a pleasure to read your posts. Do tell me your friend took your advice which was great advice by the way. I hope so. Your right. Too many times, (mothers) especially forget to take time for themselves. Crossing our fingers and casting a vote your way!

    • Hello!

      I think my friend has decided to lay low for a while with the plan of returning to blogland in a few months. Perhaps being away for a bit will help her gain new perspective.

      Thank you for your kind words. I love knowing that you found some new friends through my blog. Enjoy 2013 and looking forward to reading your posts. :)

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